DECIDE WHAT YOU WANT.

“The indispensable first step to getting the things you want out of life is this: decide what you what”. BEN STEIN.

 In the journey of life, where you are to where you want to be you have to decide where you want to be. One of the main reasons why most people don’t get what they want is, they haven’t decided what they want. They haven’t defined their desires in clear and compelling details.

Early childhood programming always get in the way of what you want.  Inside of everyone is that tiny seed of “you” that you were meant to become. Unfortunately, you may have buried this seed in response to your parent, teachers, coaches, and other adult role models as you were growing up. When you were a baby, you knew what you wanted. You knew you were hungry. You spit out the food you didn’t like and avidly devoured the ones that you did.

As you were growing older, you crawled around and moved toward whatever held interest to you. You were clear what you wanted and you headed straight towards it with no fear.Somewhere along the way, some said….

    ·         Don’t touch that!

    ·         Stay away from there.

    ·          Keep your hands off that.

    ·         You must finish that food on your plate.

    ·         You don’t really want that.

    ·         You should be ashamed of yourself.

 As you got older, you heard …

   ·         You can’t have everything you want simply because you want it.

   ·         Money doesn’t grow on trees

   ·         Can’t you think of anybody but yourself?

   ·         Stop being so selfish!

   ·         Stop doing what you are doing and come do what I want you to do!

Don’t live someone else’s dream; be bold enough to pursue yours. Don’t do anything because someone wants it, do it because it’s what you want. You deserve to have everything in your life exactly the way you want.

MAKE AN I WANT LIST

One of the easiest ways to begin clarifying what you truly want is what you truly is to make lists of 30 things you want to do, 30 things you want to have, 30 things you want before you die. This is a great way to get the ball rolling.

Don’t allow worry about making a living stop you. “Remember don’t commonize your gift, there is what you have and can do that most people cannot do, focus on that”. Ayo Akinbode

Whatever you love doing, you can make a living out of it. Let’s look at example,

If you love t hang out with people – Oprah makes money out of it.

Diane Bruse, an international tour guide, makes a living hanging out with people in some exciting and exotic locations in the world.

Tiger woods loves to play golf.                                                       

Jack canfield loves to read and share what he has read with others in books, speeches, and workshops.

It is possible to make a living doing what you love. Make a list of 20 things you love to do and ten think of ways you can make living doing those things. Two things you must know;

  1.       Where you are

  2.       Where you are going

Write your vision in details, what your destination looks like and feels like. Let it include the following areas; Work & Career, Finances, Recreation & Free time, health & fitness, relationship, personal gols, & contribution to the larger community. When you are writing don’t figure how you’ll get there, just figure out where you are going first.

Thanks to Jack Canfield for shaping my thoughts on this.